This title is also from one of my favourite books, authored by my most influential and inspiring teacher. It was an invitation to Transcend. Once you transcend, you then will be able to self-transcend! In earlier blogs, we considered self-compassion, which was an important exercise in forgiveness of our selves and others. If this blog seems “impossible,” I would urge the reader to push on with other blogs and return to this later.
Irvin Yalom explores this, in his book, Existential Analysis. As I understand self-transcendence, it is getting a lofty perspective on our self (operating over time in a variety of roles). Here, we need to think of a SELF that is able to see its (little-s) self. This seems tricky, because the subject can only see object and cannot really see its self. Our way around this is to understand the SELF as a spirit (Heart) who is observing its earthly or physical self, including the mind. The Buddha has pointed out that mind is one of the senses, like touch and vision, etc., although often less reliable.
What’s the point of this anyway? Well, Dr Rick Hanson has suggested that human development doesn’t stop in our 50s, as developmental psychology might suggest. Hanson suggests that, every few years, a mature person, will self-transcend (get that lofty perspective on how it has been doing) and make decisions for certain changes that appear to be needed.
In my case, my SELF has observed that some actions were naïve and may have compromised my ability, in physical experience, to keep on with a sense of meaning and purpose. This is useful, because our minds are quick with passing judgement and distracting us from self-compassion with consequences that actually happen. My SELF or spirit calls for courage to “accept the suffering, it isn’t going to kill you! Tomorrow is a new day!”
Sometimes, self-transcendence is prompted by a loved-one or at least someone we trust. I think this happens in a Heart to Heart understanding, that is working out in Frankl’s Noetic dimension (that Quantum connection that is not bound by space and time). To our minds, this is not comprehensible, but it is acceptable at a spiritual level. I think this is something we can get used to, as we experience the lofty perspective produced here.
Over the years, I have experienced this as: “Where two or more of you are in agreement as to anything they shall ask, it will be done . . ..” It was always a comforting experience, as I understand it from past experience. I hope you, dear readers, try it out for yourselves. Over many years, this “two in agreement” was a strategy that informed my marriage on day-to-day decisions between my wife and I. This above quote relates to the whole blog site as a way of being inspiring. I actually have come to see that we can’t be inspiring all by ourselves. I think we need to experience a connection or relationship with another person. Also, I am actually talking to you in the eternal present moment as you are reading this in that same eternal present moment, which is tricky because the mind is used to concepts of space and time.
This self-transcendence is important as we experience the quantum Heart to Heart connection because our mind may notice a disturbing feeling in our heart. If we make a mistake as we feel sadness, fail to notice that is not our sadness but the sadness in another’s Heart. If we mistakenly express the sadness, it would be sympathy, and it can make the other person’s Heart even more sad, and worse than having no acknowledgement at all. Empathy, in contrast, reading the signal from the other’s Heart and telling ourselves that we feel their feeling! Thus, this simple experience is my proof that Transcendence is not only possible but necessary if we wish to be inspiring!